‘Behaviour is said to be self-sabotaging when it creates problems in daily life and interferes with long-standing goals’.
WHY THE MINDFULNESS COMPONENT?
The reason we brought a mindfulness component into this class is because meditation gives us more self-awareness. It’s not what happens during our meditations but the results can be seen in our actual life - that is how know our meditation practice is working as other people notice how we're different.
RAY DALIO – meditation as self-reflection practice
Ray Dalio used meditation to reflect on his mistakes and to clear his mind to make better decisions in the future “When the pain passes, don’t just go forward, reflect, because that’s where your progress is,” Dalio. He lost his business when he was 33 and created a shift in his mindset from thinking that he’s always right to instead asking himself, “How do I know I’m right?”
1. KNOW THYSELF
WE MAY HAVE DISEMPOWERING THOUGHTS – THOUGHTS THAT WE IDENTIFY AS TRUE
I’M NOT QUALIFIED ENOUGH FOR THAT ROLE or
IT’S JUST LUCK
Meditation gives us the opportunity to inquire into these thoughts, is that true? Or is there something else going on here?
So be open & curious to find out more about yourself.
Meditation is not the practice of no thoughts but a practice of getting to know yourself better.
2. SETTING INTENTIONS NOT GOALS
Have you defined what success means for you? Most of us do it by external goals and perhaps material things. But ultimately success is a feeling… we all know people who have made it in Hollywood or in business but been desperately unhappy.
So I’d invite you rather than setting goals like "I want to be promoted by year-end" ... which could lead to disappointment and the feeling of failure if it doesn't happen when in actual fact it has nothing to do with that.
I’d like you to consider setting success in terms of intentions and feelings. Why is it you want that promotion? What’s your guiding principle in life? Is it to help people? Or to inspire your team?
Setting intentions gives us a compass or direction in life that we can continually come back to again and again rather than being whipsawed by failures in the short term that are of course disappointing but in a life-time don’t actually count to very much. This gives ut the empowerment for us to become the masters of our destiny rather than the victims of our fate.
Highlights of the full webinar here:
1:10 intro to Davina 2:40 Davina introduces the concept of self-awareness as a key tool to help us make better choices in our lives 4:10 Why is this topic important? 5:05 Some definitions of key concepts discussed 5:40 Case Study I - why did I get fired? 9:30 What is self-sabotage? 11:00 Case Study II - why can’t I get that promotion/pay rise? 13:30 Why do we self-sabotage? It’s not you - here’s the science 16:20 Why do we self-sabotage? Some real life scenarios 17:50 How might this look in general? 21:50 What might this look like on me? 25:30 What might trigger me? 29:20 How can I stop these destructive behaviours? 35:55 Davina introduces how meditation can help and how we might get there. ‘How do I know I am right?’ 38:45 Exploration - self reflection and self-enquiry. ‘Know thyself’ 40:30 Exploration - what does success mean for you? 43:30 Meditation to examine your thoughts & beliefs